Growing up, I was always taught that the Bible verse Ephesians 4:26-27 meant than a person was never supposed to end the day while they were still angry or hadn't worked a problem out.

And “don’t sin by letting anger control you.” Don’t let the sun go down while you are still angry, for anger gives a foothold to the devil. (Ephesians 4:26-27 NLT)

The issue for me was that I was always easily angered and upset at night and would cry easily so my mom would always tell me to just go to sleep so I could feel better and try to work it out when I would supposedly have a clearer mind the next day. 

With time I learned that I just need time. I am a slow processor and need time to think and formulate my thoughts before I can respond. One of the many ways I take after my dad. 

So I have been left confused by this verse and why people so strongly believe that one's anger must be resolved before the day is over and why even I was taught that while being given the opposite advice. Everyone works differently. Sometimes people need days and days and their anger doesn't go away for a while. I've always thought that it should be okay and that people should be able to take the time they need and not feel rushed or pressured for anything they are trying to work through. 

I read this verse in Psalms today and I seemed to find the answer to what I was confused about. 

Don’t sin by letting anger control you. Think about it overnight and remain silent. (Psalms 4:4 NLT)

I feel as though many people make blanket statements about scripture and that one verse applies to all in every situation, but I don't think God works like that. He can use the same scripture to teach people different things, and as we are each created uniquely He works uniquely in our lives. 

This is where I need to be continuously conscious of my judgment towards other and their beliefs and remember the beauty of the uniqueness of each of us and what unites us is His love. 

Thoughts?